Posted by All Done on June 11, 2008, at 1:10:46
In reply to Restless, posted by Daisym on June 11, 2008, at 0:25:23
Daisy,
I'm sorry it's so hard to let yourself need others and that not doing so leaves you feeling isolated and lonely. Does your T have any suggestions for making changes? I wish I had some, but all I can say is I know how hard it is to need someone. Especially our T's. I feel like it's against the rules or something. And then I tell myself that even if I did allow myself to feel needy, there's nothing he can "really" do about it. I know that isn't true. They do what they can, but there are limits.
I guess the thing is, maybe if we can allow ourselves to need others in our lives, they can extend themselves beyond the limits of a typical therapeutic relationship. So, maybe you would be surprised at what others can and will do for you. Because they want to. Because they care for you. You just have to let them know what you need (easier said than done, of course). Try to drop hints at first, if that's easier.
It seems cliche, I know...if you build it, they will come...but maybe???
Sorry, I'm sleepy. I might not be making much sense.
I wish I could be there for you. I'm sorry you're having a rough time.
Miss you...
Laurie
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