Posted by Happyflower on June 15, 2008, at 17:33:58
In reply to Not too happy with my therapist today, posted by Dinah on June 15, 2008, at 17:04:53
Grrrrrrrrrrrr. I warn you I am in a mood about T's right now. But changing boundaries for their sake(even though they will say it was for our protection) IS CRAP and it HURTS more than they realize I think.
My Old T was like this all the time there was a riff between us, it was ALWAYS my fault, and he had nothing to do with my OVERREACTING. In fact he always said that he is USUALLY right. grrrrrrr.To me this is an abuse of power during therapy, now sometimes it can be a client that is overreacting. But sometimes it is the T who gets his ego bruised and they get hurtful in defense of what they did that we call them out on it or for any wrong doing. Are they EVER guilty?
So easy for T who usually has a good sense of self esteem to overpower a client who in most cases do have a lower self esteem. Of course it is the "crazy client" who is at fault not the perfect egotistic T's who never do anything wrong. grrrrrrrrrr. I think this makes us feel powerless, which cause intense feelings of betrayal of our trust.
Most of us have a issue like this that happened before in our pasts. I think your reactions are completely valid, considering what you have been through with your T. Now I know all I am saying her doesn't apply to you, but your post brings back memories of a common struggle I had with my old T.
What is it with T's working on Sundays and on holidays? Sorry for my rant Dinah, but I am on your side. lol
My current T is not like this, he will make that mistake once in a great while and I call him out on it, and he admits his mistake or tries to explain, but usually I was right. He has his ego in check but usually it is ego that makes him slip up, he admits it.
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