Posted by Lemonaide on July 30, 2008, at 17:38:58
In reply to My T called me again today, he talked to old T, posted by Lemonaide on July 30, 2008, at 15:14:42
Is some of you don't know, read the post above, I am meeting with both my T's at my current T's office.
Right now my original intentions have been changed because of the past couple days. Before I wanted to make things nice again so when I see him at the gym, I won't feel so bad.
But now part of me wants to tear him a new *ssh*l*. He hurt me and I want him to know it. But I remember when I talked to my T today on the phone he wanted to make sure that it will be in my best interest. I am not sure if giving him my anger will help us mend the relationship, it will probably make him even more resistant to admitting anything he did was wrong. I want to forgive him, but yet I want him to know what I am forgiving him for. I want him to understand the hurt he caused me.
How do I do this? I will see my T tomorrow to talk about this. Part of me still cares a lot for him (even though I don't feel it) but part of me is angry as hell too. Any suggestions on how i should handle myself during this meeting?
If he denies having a crush on me, should I bring up items 1-10 that prove he is denial? If he denies doing anything to cause me harm, do I bring up examples? Or do I be more general with how he hurt me and work more for forgiving him and coming together so we both feel good?
But there is not "us" anymore, so there is nothing to save really. So should I just why I am angry, why I care about him, and why I care about him is why it hurt so much for what he did to me?
Okay< I am talking in circles. Any ideas on what to do?
Should I start off with first how much he means to me, then explain why he hurt me, then come back to how I want to forgive him for what he did so I can feel good about some of the good that happened between us.
I realize this is a unique situation, but what do you all think? Or should I just go outside and pee on his car? lol
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