Posted by rskontos on August 4, 2008, at 12:40:57
In reply to Re: Received another letter from my T, posted by LadyBug on July 31, 2008, at 23:23:22
Ladybug,
I know all the hardships you've endured this past year. And for my thoughts on this is this. She is telling you that you might not get the closure you want because life and therapy is just that way. She is warning you in a way that she isn't anyone but a human flawed just like all humans so it might be that you go one more time and it works out and it might not.
I know how you feel. A past relationship with someone ended badly for me too. I thought we would be friends always. He turned on me, it ended badly and never have I reconciled this relationship. And it often pops up in my mind and I replay a scene of how it might go should I meet up with him. But that never happens and life goes on. He really hurt me. But I too go on. So what I am trying to say that is what therapy is about sometimes. Dealing with relationships that don't work out and moving forward. And sometimes closure happens and sometimes it doesn't. And we must be strong enough to move on and keep our wits about us to remember the real priorities in life. You and your dear daughters. Not her and her life. Which was always borrowed and only a slice of her life anyway. You know what I mean. I mean how well do we know our T's and how well should we for our sakes. Now i know you have a long relationship with her but it still was not like the real ones you have with your daughters. Hang on to them and gently remind yourself you are and have been letting her go and it is ok. You will be great on your own.
you are doing great Ladybug. I believe in you.
rsk
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