Posted by rskontos on September 9, 2008, at 16:25:59
In reply to Something happened today, posted by Quintal on September 9, 2008, at 13:27:38
OH Q,
I feel so bad for your statement, "I don't know why". If this guy saw something why would you question it. Oh I know you don't see anything in yourself for others to see that is attractive. I get that. And I understand having a hard time connecting with others. I isolate myself as much as possible. I am more at ease not around new people. My family even is hard to be with sometimes.
I guess you need to try gently to work on seeing yourself with someone else. I too never saw myself doing anything with others it just happened. Maybe you can try to let something happen without questioning the motives. I know that is a tall order. But somehow I think you need others to help you reinforce you have good qualities worth others time.
I will bet he saw more than just lonely and gay. I bet he saw something much more attractive than you give yourself credit for. I believe sometimes we are beaten down to the point we can't always see ourselves as the world can see us. My T said this to me just the other day. That i did not see what was worthwhile in myself.
I really do want you to be more gently with yourself. Try not to hate. Just because you were thrown off by this incident don't throw yourself under the train just yet. I think this is something to try to build on.
You are a special person. Someone that maybe you need to get to know a little better too. Just try talking to him if you do see him. I know that is hard but think how hard it was for him too.
He took a chance maybe you can try that too now.Are you at all interested in him?
I don't think you are selfish at all. Just confused. LIke many of us are.
take care, and be a little kinder to yourself.
rsk
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