Posted by Deputy 10derHeart on September 10, 2008, at 1:18:27
In reply to Re: Fear of Telling T/Paying out of Pocket....., posted by fleeting flutterby on September 9, 2008, at 21:11:25
>I'm so tired of clicks!
>why didn't you just put the people's names in your post that you wanted to reply back to you?
>It's apparent that you only care to hear from certain people--Please be sensitive to the feelings of others, even if your are hurt, by not jumping to conclusions about them, or posting anything that could lead them to feel accused or put down.
Mandy, I'm sorry you feel unheard and ignored. I know how much that hurts, trust me. Do you think, though, there could be other reasons for what you perceive as cliques and slights toward you? I have often replied only to some of those who replied to me. Sometimes, I couldn't think of a thing to say. I was - frozen. I didn't like or understand it, but I really couldn't write. Sometimes, my computer froze, and later I forgot, or something IRL came up and I was completely distracted, or I didn't understand what someone had said, or by the time I got to reply to poster #3, 4, 5....I was too tired/depressed/ anxious....you know?
I'll bet one of those reasons, or something else I couldn't think of, is more likely the actual reason, instead of that another poster dislikes you or doesn't want to hear you. I hope you feel better.
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--10derHeart, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob
poster:Deputy 10derHeart
thread:850983
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