Posted by fleeting flutterby on September 11, 2008, at 18:20:59
In reply to Or maybe... » fleeting flutterby, posted by Racer on September 11, 2008, at 9:06:18
Sassy, I hope you will not mind my answering to Racer here. If so this post can be moved or deleted if needed.
> > maybe I'm not well enough for a support forum........
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> Actually, Mandy, I have another interpretation:
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> I'm terribly insecure -- I describe myself as the poster child for insecurity, which surprises many people who don't see that in me. (I hide it well.) I also feel left out at times, here and elsewhere. I feel terrible when I get to feeling that way. And I have a very, very hard time accepting anything like criticism or correction.<<---Yes, I feel terrible when I get feeling that way too. I am trying VERY hard to not "run" when feeling hurt, criticized or corrected. This would not have been me just a couple years ago-- I would have disappeared-- "fluttered" away.
> You just made a very nice, very understanding, very respectful response to a correction from 10der. Now, admittedly, 10der writes the kindest, most compassionate PBCs I can imagine, she's a great person, with a very great and tender heart.<<--Scuse me-- but what is "PBCs"? is that the warning I was just given?
>> Nonetheless, she's still slapped your wrist, no matter how gently. And your response wasn't to go hide, to hang your head, to explode about it -- you've written back, you've acknowledged and accepted the correction, and you've apologized in case someone else's feelings were hurt.
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> I'd say you were getting some benefit from being here, if only by seeing that someone can say, "I really like you -- and I don't like that behavior." That's a lesson I've had trouble learning in life, and the few PBCs I've gotten here have maybe helped a bit. Maybe look at the benefits and how Babble makes you even just a little stronger?<<---Well I DO find this site safer feeling-- considering my mental struggles. I left a very big site about 6 months ago due to too much catagorizing-- counting people's posts and putting members in different standing, having a "special" forum for only some members-- it was just too triggering for me. :o(
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> I hope this makes sense. I'd hate to see you flutter away.
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> Peace.<<----- Oh wow-- it makes such sense. thank you for having such patience to write this all-- you are very wise. I really appreciate it Racer. I am struggling to understand myself and others. I thank all that have helped me.
and Sassy-- thank you for not getting mad at me...... I've been having a tough go of things lately and I maybe got over defensive. (my T. said I should work on the way I word things when I am upset and want to make a point--- *sigh*-- that is so hard for me-- how to word things....) *blushes*.... oops..... I'm sorry.
flutterby-mandy
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