Posted by Nadezda on September 19, 2008, at 18:56:32
In reply to Re: What do you tell your DH? » JayJ, posted by Wittgensteinz on September 19, 2008, at 17:34:38
I agree with others that your therapy is private-- I think of it as a zone of privacy that no one has the right to invade, even your spouse or best friend.
I would say, we discussed some issues I'm having-- but it's private, or but I'd like to work on it myself-- or anything. Or nothing-- you can give a vague description, or say you'd rather not talk about it, or just give an abstract outline. Sometimes the issues are things that are worth discussing-- but you don't have to say you've talked about them in therapy, then, either.
Sometimes, it may feel like a betrayal or secret "affair"-- other times, you might feel guilty about what you've said-- I have sometimes--and eventually, I hope comfortable with your own decisions. There are phases, I think-- or variations on how you feel.
But what you say should depend on what feels right and fair to yourself. Some people believe that it's important not to discuss it at all-- but for me, that's too formalistic. I don't go into much, for the most part, but occasionally I consult with my bf to see if he sees what my T is saying, or can explain something I don't quite get-- and other times, I 've used things from therapy that relate to us--
My bf, on the other hand, never talks about his therapy. I don't ask either-- or if I do, I never push beyond what level of detail he seems willing to open up. I feel as if it's his right to keep it to himself too. I would hope your H could understand and respect that..
Nadezda
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