Posted by antigua3 on January 24, 2009, at 14:50:31
In reply to Re: Favorite child » antigua3, posted by DAisym on January 24, 2009, at 1:24:25
No, you didn't say anything wrong at all. Obviously, this is a huge trigger for me and just recognizing it will be helpful for me. Families of origin can be so difficult to deconstruct and having this discussion hurts in a way, but I know it will be helpful.
It's a balancing act of discovering how I came to feel this way with understanding how I treat my children. I'm OK w/it today because I think the real work right now is to understand why this triggers me so and how it all came about.
I think my kids are safe on this one for a little bit. I don't think I've done too much damage yet (oh, my poor oldest, all the expectations I placed on him! oh well, he'll have to figure that one out himself. Actually, I think he has; we've talked it through several times.)
So I still have my wonderful, beautiful daughter and my really great younger son in my clutches. It's time for a re-tooling of my parental skills, and I can already hear my daughter saying, "Mom, this ISN'T therapy!"
Thank you for helping me to accept that it's OK for me to feel this way, and more importantly, to have the guts to explore why.
antigua
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