Posted by rskontos on January 25, 2009, at 13:36:51
In reply to Re: Favorite child » rskontos, posted by antigua3 on January 24, 2009, at 20:37:39
yep, to turn one's own medicine is a good strategy and learning experience. Perhaps then he will understand what he did to you.
And if not, oh well. It still doesn't change how you know you have tried not to have a favorite.
The other thing is, perhaps in trying not have one, we may or may not succeed, but I believe that in trying is enough. We are not perfect humans, but we know what was done to us, and we are trying hard not to do that to someone else. So our motives are what is important.
He, in my opinion, missed the boat. To me, often parenting is with the best intentions is often all you are left with, because children are only going to absorbed what they will and that is all a parent can hope for. That they get 1/2 half what you want and end up OK. Right?
We don't want clones of ourselves and our beliefs, just something somewhat close to what we perceive as an ideal person. Afterall, our judgement of what is best, is not often the best ideal just what we hope is best.
I know I have faults, my children have some, but I believe in my heart they are better than I so I am confident that they will do better in life than I have. That is all a parent can do right?
ps. I hope he squirms.
rsk
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