Posted by sassyfrancesca on January 26, 2009, at 13:57:41
In reply to Re: Afraid my therapist might reject me if..... » sassyfrancesca, posted by sharon7 on January 26, 2009, at 13:30:09
Hey, sweetie: i understand. I was never nurtured or mothered by my mother; she was extremely abusive (physical and mental); I joined the army right out of high school and have been going ever since, LOL, LOL
Unfortunately I "married" my mother and tried to fix the past---for 31 years; divorced for 3 years; the only fear I ever had was being alone, and I did it. Now, my t is my "surrogate boyfriend" as he calls himself.
Ive written my memoir: Ghost Child to Triumph (from a child with no voice, to someone who speaks up against injustice), have a poetry website (www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com), went back to school at age 61 and won a women's scholarship; it was easy; all I had to do was write about my (sordid, LOL) life, and I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group.
Okay, done bragging, but it just goes to show what you can do when you are determined. I went t my t for probably something different than anyone else has ever gone to a t (he is also a pastor), and expert in spiritual abuse; my church voted me out (my t journeyed with me for the 18 months in which I fought the system) of membership, with my name up on a big screen, followed by the words: "Conduct Unbecoming A Child of God."
That was over 4 years ago; I am still with him; don't know how much longer; I pay out of pocket and cannot afford it.
Wow, I really have gone on, eh? I think we all need to be "mothered," nurtued...and all of the things we never got as children. It is only natural.
My friends have become my family.
Hugs n Love, dear new friend!! I think your t will be honored to hear how you feel about her.
Sassy
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