Posted by antigua3 on January 26, 2009, at 19:00:24
In reply to Afraid my therapist might reject me if....., posted by sharon7 on January 26, 2009, at 12:00:07
Something else to consider. By discussing and workng this through w/your T, hopefully you will resolve some of your childhood issues and ultimately come to find a way to mother yourself. That's what I've learned--to find my own mother/father/whatever, within, so that the external need is lessened.
Also, my pdoc is CBT to the max, but he does understand that I project my feelings about my father onto him and that this drives our interactions sometimes.
I didn't know the depth or the anguish that would be required to resolve my "father" issues. It's tough work, and I'm certainly not there yet, but it is worth it to escape the h*ll that I've gone through over the years re-experiencing the intense transference feelings with inappropriate men w/o ever resolving them. (Pls know that I'm not suggesting your feelings or objects of transference are inappropriate; i just happen to have the bad habit of picking men who possess too many of my father's faults.)
Good luck,
antigua
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