Posted by Trotter on January 27, 2009, at 13:49:42
In reply to My so-called family, posted by Trotter on January 20, 2009, at 2:03:01
For better or for worse I wrote my parents a letter clearly outlining how angry I am with them, the reasons why, and that I want them to show remorse so I can forgive them and let go of my anger. I explained that such a reconciliation could be good for our relationship, and invited them to participate.
Although the content of the letter is confronting, it is nothing really new from what I have hit them with before. Perhaps if they read it several times, and reflect on it, they will be able to deal with their automatic tendency to deny. I am pinning my hopes on their desire to continue to have a relationship with me, and their fear that not agreeing to participate in a reconciliation may risk that.
Regardless of their response, I am totally at peace with having sent the letter. I put a lot of time into it. My therapist said it was a very good letter. I am happy because now I can rest knowing I have honestly given it my best shot. I am strangely relaxed about this. I guess I had already reached the point of giving up on them, so with this last efffort I have nothing to lose.
Trotter
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