Posted by Dinah on June 18, 2009, at 17:04:00
In reply to Re: I fired my t, posted by alexandra_k on June 18, 2009, at 13:51:26
:((((
Not the nicest thing to receive.
What would happen if you wrote back "I think there has been a misunderstanding. I was saying I'd like to discuss this. I *would* like to see you in person to discuss this. Do you have any time available?
Believe it or not, something similar happened to me just this last session. I was in hysterics about it. He misunderstood my saying I wanted to talk about whether we could open up some new lines of therapy to keep twice a week therapy as fitting my needs to mean that I wanted to cut back to once a week. He regressed before my eyes to the therapist I had ten years ago, and by his own admission, treated me the way he'd treated me ten years ago. I responded very badly, got more and more hysterical, until I broke into those convulsive heaving sobs (after storming out of the room). I still can't figure out what happened, given what I know about myself and him. But it *hurt* to have him cooly say "Fine. We'll cut down to once a week. Fine. You don't need to come in this week. Fine. You can call me if you wish to see me."
Away from the immediacy of the hurt, I realize that he didn't understand, and perhaps I didn't understand and it snowballed.
You're already feeling so hurt. Would there be much to lose in asking him outright if you can see him again?
poster:Dinah
thread:900834
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