Posted by Anna Laura on July 23, 2001, at 5:25:29
In reply to Re: Love only in fairy tales? » Patches, posted by Shar on July 22, 2001, at 0:06:55
> I agree with the other posters, and also believe there is a cultural trap we fall into about what we expect from love. The cultural stuff is the knight in shining armor, being swept away or maybe protected, laughing together, ----- like the commercials we see on TV.
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> That romantic kind of love definitely exists, but I believe it is only part of the picture of a marriage. The romantic love gives way a bit as we deal with reality in relationships, annoyances, anger (how we express it or don't), sex, money, fidelity, the goals of the relationship (stated or unstated).
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> I think we want love to be simple (I know I do) but it is not. And, it is not necessarily natural for us to live with another human being and make constant compromises. The only way to do those things and not feel pissed is through choosing (both partners making a choice), IMHO.
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> I don't know about love except it can hurt like hell, and has a better chance of succeeding if the two people share a bond or can develop a closeness, and agree on how they want to be with each other.
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> Good luck.
> SharShar, i totally agree with you. Love is not about the corny stuff we see on tv. And we wouldn't want that, after all, would we?
I think life is bitter-sweet and i personally like it as it is, otherwise it would be like eating ice-creams for lunch and dinner all life through! It would be both loathing and boring in the long run.....
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