Posted by Twinleaf on May 4, 2013, at 13:10:52
In reply to Re: Not really a distortion Phillipa » Twinleaf, posted by Phillipa on May 4, 2013, at 12:07:32
I think Dinah has expressed the really important aspects of your family situation so well - how relationships get gradually stuck in various degrees of misunderstanding and mutual hurt. Even if one person is responsible for much of the difficulty, it does take everyone involved to make things better and happier. I do agree with her that a skilled outside person is usually needed to help a family repair such a serious rupture. Have you ever talked to them about such a possibility?
It seems as if Babble is being used as one more way of continuing the conflict. In some ways, this is more serious than a private fight or disagreement, because it is public and permanent. It is of course very welcome if you, Dinah or I bring personal problems here which we would like help with. But it becomes destructive when Babble is used to simply blame other family members.
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