Posted by sunny10 on April 14, 2005, at 10:03:33
In reply to Re: Life After Addictions » sunny10, posted by Larry Hoover on April 13, 2005, at 16:23:32
yes, I repeat the Serenity Prayer often... I have gotten to at least the point where I understand that the People version is a co-dependent joke... we can only ever change ourselves.
I consider myself to have a substance abuse problem, too... the substances being the endorphins and (it just left my mind.. the peaceful one? starts with an "o", oxytocins, I think...something like that)brought on by sex and intimacy in one on one relationships. I believe they call it Love Addiction.
So I need to find ways to give myself those "happy and peaceful" chemicals, rather than relying on a relationship with someone else to provide it...
Any ideas??? Guess I have to find another kind of book to learn from... does the work ever end?
Sometimes it is hard not to feel angry that my parents created me... some people actually had normal, loving parents... it is hard to learn to love and accept love in healthy ways (like with boundaries) late in life.
I am a little discouraged at the moment because I feel like the mental health system was quick to find the Major Depressive Disorder, and dispense meds and "coping skills", but they never even touched the underlying issues and basically told me not to "dwell on the past"- just "do as I say" and all will be well. Coping only works until I'm exhausted with the effort of "acting like I'm happy". Then, the exhaustion brings depression back in full force and I am even incapable of using the "skills" at all. So how come the "and you will become happy" part has never kicked in like they all promised it would if I acted that way?????
Okay, I know, you guys don't have the answers either... just venting... I'm just tired and frustrated, I guess.
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