Posted by Kath on January 8, 2007, at 15:12:28
In reply to Re: Love Conquers All, posted by lymom3 on January 5, 2007, at 15:53:34
Oh Boy - can I relate.
You MUST take care of yourself. You're doing the right thing!!!!!!!!
He'll be OK while you take the time to do whatever you need to to take care of YOU.
I have been through a similar situation.
If you have a local or nearby Al-Anon group or Nar-Anon group, they're exTREMEly supportive & helpful. There's an on-line Nar-Anon group. In the summer I got some good support from it.
The very most important thing right now is for you to take care of yourself hun. I have been there & I know that this is true.
Also....you have not caused this to happen to your son; it's not your fault.
Looking back to when my son was similar to yours (except there were always additional drugs; not just weed) I would say the best advice I could have received at the time was:
- take good care of yourself
- you've given your son the tools he needs to make good decisions & take care of himself; he might use them right now or he might not, but you've given them to him
- get some 12-Step support - Al-Anon or Nar-Anon or CoDependents Anonymous
- decide what 'bottom lines' you can set & stick to (it's really important that you are going to be able to stick to whatever you say to your son with some degree of comfort); let your son know your bottom lines,then STICK TO THEM
- try to find a good parent support group; lots are free - a Tough Love type of thing - they tend to vary in how 'tough' they are, but usually there's a phone list of parents who you can phone if you need support
I send you golden light - surrounding you & soaking into every pore - soothing you & calming you & healing you.
much love, Kath
PS - Please BAbblemail me if you want to.
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