Posted by gardenergirl on April 1, 2007, at 15:43:07
In reply to Re: Are your spouses supportive?, posted by scratchpad on March 30, 2007, at 19:04:19
Substance abuse is not one of my issues, but I had a hard time with my husband not understanding my depression and sensitivity. I finally recommended he go to a therapist to get some support for himself about my depression, since I couldn't really support him when I was struggling with just my own stuff.
It really helped, and we are now in couples counseling. It's been a really good thing. I highly recommend it if it's an option. It seems to me to be even more useful and effective when you're not in a crisis or on the verge of divorce like so many couples are who go to counseling. At least that's what our T says.
I tried giving him the Burns book, "Feeling Good", but I don't think he read it. But I was desperate for him to have a better understanding of depression, because his disappointment and judgment were really upsetting for me and are a dynamic that's a part of the whole deal.
I can imagine myself feeling the way you describe when your husband falls asleep after having a drink. It is good that you see it happening. That's crucial to getting a handle on it whenever you're meant to.
Warm hugs your way....
Namaste
gg
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