Posted by scratchpad on April 1, 2007, at 21:43:37
In reply to Re: Are your spouses supportive? » scratchpad, posted by gardenergirl on April 1, 2007, at 15:43:07
> I tried giving him the Burns book, "Feeling Good", but I don't think he read it. But I was desperate for him to have a better understanding of depression, because his disappointment and judgment were really upsetting for me and are a dynamic that's a part of the whole deal.
>I gave my copy of that book to a friend I used to work with, who is being babysat into sobriety by her husband and her mum. We went out to a movie this weekend and I found it was just easier to talk to her than I remembered. I think that by now perhaps she and I have shared some similar experiences with depression and substance abuse.
A long time ago I gave away my copy of "Codependent No More" by Melody Beatty. So I ordered a new one, and told my husband that we can read it. He's going through some serious stuff with his daughter (whom you met) as she is experiencing her own substance problems.
Somehow I know that this is all playing out exactly as it's supposed to. I even have an extra appointment booked with my T this week, as she's trying to see if we all can benefit and learn about this process.
> I can imagine myself feeling the way you describe when your husband falls asleep after having a drink. It is good that you see it happening. That's crucial to getting a handle on it whenever you're meant to.
>Lately I have just been sitting in complete panic, trying to remember to breathe in and out. Counting up and down to 4 over and over helps. Eventually the panic releases its grip, out of boredom.
> Warm hugs your way....
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> Namaste
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> ggand to you
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