Posted by karen_kay on November 29, 2007, at 14:11:07
In reply to Fighting to esteem, posted by ClearSkies on November 27, 2007, at 15:41:58
i don't know if this helps or not, but last year, i had a huge thanksgiving dinner. this year, i signed up for it again. last year, my sister lived i this house too, so i had her help, but she's moved so i wouldn't have ehr help and i realized it. so, i told everyone 'NO WAY!!! FORGET IT!!!' and just had a few people over.
mister kk put the turkey in the night before (and i let him help me while i was asleep, so i didn't hover over him and criticize, as i'm apt to do), made cookies, and cleaned the kitchen up for me. again, whiel i was asleep, so i wasn't up his butt.
the inlaws didn't come, so that helped. but, they aren't critical at all. that helps a whole bunch!!
maybe mister cs is trying to help in his own way by saying catering will be a good option jsut so you don't have to stress at all. i know i would be upset at the thought of having people over for a catered feast, especially inlaws.
maybe, you can ask for help, but get that help while you're busy doing something else. if you're like me (i'm assuming and you know what they say about that....) geting help while you can't oversee it may be useful and keep you from watching him do it??? is that the problem???
OOOOOORRRRRRR... you could realize that you're jsut one person and preparing a feast for hungry inlaws (assuming yoru inlaws are like mine, they probably eat like pigs :), requires!!!!!! help!!! one person alone just cannot do it. and if oneperson does then <taaaa daaaa> that person should be proud and named a super hero!!!!!
sweetie, you're wonderful! you put on a feast for your family! i'm sure they enjoyed all of it! and you shoudl realize it's ok to ask for help when you need it. AND.... you didn't turn to old habits to get you through!!!!!
YAHOOO to super hero cs!!!!! you're perfection hun! give yourself a break. everyone else thinks you're great! you shoudl step back and view yourself as everyone else does :) you'd see a completely different person in the mirror! a perfectly delicious gorgeous woman, who is capable and wonderful!!!!!!
love you sweetie,
kk
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