Posted by ruby on July 7, 2003, at 10:11:36
In reply to Re: seeing my t in his apt. » ruby, posted by fallsfall on July 6, 2003, at 22:16:22
yep, to all that you've said...even including the interview in the hotel room. in my field, that is almost standard and i can remember one time being in 5 different hotel rooms for 5 different interviews and for one, they asked me to sit on the bed.....oy.
anyway, i hear everything you are saying. it really does feel like i need to "professionalize" our appts/rel-ship for my own sake. the good thing is i {think} i can talk about this stuff with him and that he'll listen.
i've a problem finding ts that are dicey with boundaries--one i saw for 2 or 3 years talked a lot about herself and then her brother started dating a friend of me (weird, weird)...i didn't tell her but then in a session she started talking about her brother's dating habits...and that was it, i couldn't see her any more.
basically, perhaps like many of us, i HATE therapy...am always hating it, going each time is a struggle for me so i think i almost need to see someone who is a bit flexible helps me get there and do what i need to do.
anyway, thanks for your long and thoughtful response. it is helpful in gauging what is going on in me and between t and i. when i see him tomorrow i may bring this stuff up...though is so much other stuff going on it may be lower on the priority list....wish may be an issue in and of itself. oy, again.
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