Posted by Crooked Heart on March 6, 2004, at 6:02:38
In reply to Re: women without children, posted by terrics on March 5, 2004, at 18:28:16
> Thank you all for such interesting comments. I do not have children and I agree that it does not make one particularly self-centered. I did worry about having children because of my mental health and my ability to take care of them. terrics
I wish that my mother had felt that worry. All of my sibs as well as myself suffered a lot because of my mother's inability to look after us. The effects on us are still there decades later, although therapy has helped me a lot. It always felt that it was up to us to make her happy, but no matter how hard they try children can't cure their mother's clinical depression.
And now I suppose we do our duty towards our mother but you couldn't say that any of us are really fond of her. It's nobody's fault but it is a shame.
It's a courageous and generous decision not to have children because one felt that one might not be able to look after them properly.
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