Posted by Dinah on March 6, 2004, at 9:23:58
In reply to Re: JYL » Dinah, posted by tinydancer on March 6, 2004, at 1:49:10
My parents were masters at anger. And it was pretty random on my side. But they were so comfortable with anger that it certainly didn't destroy relationships for them.
But I eventually emotionally divorce people who feel unsafe to me - to whom I feel anger. So to me feeling anger = eventual emotional divorce.
I think that's where my therapist is concentrating.
I think he underestimates what safety the skills I learned in childhood about how to read others and avoid anger give me. Or maybe he doesn't but he thinks I don't need them anymore, or doesn't want me using them.
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