Posted by gardenergirl on March 7, 2004, at 12:58:22
In reply to Re: Gardenergirl, thank you so much., posted by Dinah on March 7, 2004, at 10:09:49
Dinah,
I'm glad I could help. I was just thinking as I read your post that you should print it out for him as it explains beautifully what you are struggling with. But then I read the end...LOL.
You could always edit out the nose-picking! If only you could IRL.You mentioned that over nine years 1-2 hours per week doesn't seem like that much. But how many of us see friends that often for so long? I think your real relationship is significant. How could you not have that after nine years? And how could he not? I'm sure he cares about you. And his use of your caring about him to help with SI is a good strategy, IMO, but I can see where it is also manipulative.
But I can also see how his comments from relationship 1 can hurt when put in the context of relationship 3. It is a complicated relationship, especially given the longevity and your ability to care for others.
As much as it hurts at times, I'm glad you have such a profound relationship with your T.
Take care,
gg
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