Posted by gardenergirl on March 6, 2004, at 22:33:06
In reply to Re: mad therapists » tinydancer, posted by fallsfall on March 6, 2004, at 9:56:36
> Now, when I feel like he's mad at me I try to think of other possibilities (what could his different perspective be?). Knowing that there are reasonable explanations that would explain his behavior that don't include his anger allows me to take the incident and put it on "hold". I am able to decide that there is "reasonable doubt", and this allows me to not freak out because I think that he's mad. At our next session, I ask him about it - sometimes this is very hard. And he tells me what he is really thinking and feeling.
Good for you! That sounds like it must feel good. I'm glad your switch has worked out well for you. I can tell you are insightful, and I'm sure this helps in therapy.
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