Posted by lonelygirl on May 1, 2004, at 14:15:05
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
As I've described before (and I'm sure I read like a broken record), I was forced to go to counseling at my school's health center because I got in trouble at school.
I was randomly assigned to my psychologist for the initial consultation -- I didn't have any say in that. At the time I had the consultation, he was not yet licensed, and he informed me that once he submitted his treatment recommendations, I would be placed on a waiting list and get assigned to the first licensed counselor with an opening (at this point, he told me I would probably not see him again).
Shortly after he submitted his treatment recommendations, he got his license, and I ended up getting assigned to him (he told me that he asked for me to be assigned to him, but I'm not sure if that's really true).
I do think he is a good fit for me. I am very picky. As a child, I was forced to see several different psychologists and psychiatrists, and I have never particularly liked any of them. When I was again forced to go to counseling at school, I was annoyed about the requirement, and endured it only because otherwise I would have been kicked out of the dorm, and I fully intended to attend only the mandatory 6 sessions.
For a while, I was very resistant and rather uncooperative (not that I was argumentative or hostile, but I lied on the intake forms and in the consultation to minimize my problems, said as little as possible in the sessions, and generally had a bad attitude about it). Somewhere around the 4th session -- really the 5th time I saw him -- I started to have a change of heart, and in a move that would probably surprise anyone who knows me, I actually decided to continue seeing him of my own volition.
I am really impressed with him in many ways -- and I am not someone who is easily impressed. He is so patient and kind, even when I was being uncooperative. I often feel like he is truly listening to me and responding personally, unlike others who just seemed to go by a generic formula. He is rational and logical and I like conversing with him, and the world kind of makes sense when he is there. He has some amazing insight into a lot of things. He has a somewhat cheesy sense of humor, but I like it when he jokes around with me a little.
I am relatively comfortable with him. Maybe not as much as other people here (e.g., I would never be able to tell him that I feel like I am in love with him), but I am probably more open with him than with anyone else in my life, including my family.
Gosh, I’m going to miss him : (
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