Posted by Pfinstegg on May 16, 2004, at 17:21:10
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
I just came back from vacation and noticed your mention of my T. I think I should fill in the picture a bit, as i wrote most of my posts about him when I was just starting, and they did have a bit of a *honeymoon* aspect to them! I do think he's a very good therapist, especially for abuse and PTSD, which are my main issues, and I do think we are a good *fit*, although I can get into lots of states when I DON'T think so! Sometimes it's just miserable going in there, having horrible flashbacks, and most painful of all, feeling he's barely in the room with me. The thing is, though, that I know he is there, and is focussing quietly and intently on me, and that all these painful things are part of my illness. Sometimes, though, these painful states are so severe that I just have to try to get through them; it's not always within my power to receive comfort or support from him, much as I want and need it, He says that we are still just at the beginning; just before I left to go away, he said one morning, "I think this is the first moment tht you have felt really securely attached to me". He was right.
On the lighter side of things, when all this really painful stuff lightens up for a bit, I do find him delightful- fun- we share a lot of genuine laughter over various things. But, mostly, now, it's very hard going.
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