Posted by fallsfall on May 18, 2004, at 17:00:59
In reply to Therapist-permanence (long, windy, *sigh*), posted by DaisyM on May 18, 2004, at 16:13:12
I know the urgency, but I don't know what to do about it. I have felt the urgency when I've felt like I'm falling apart (oozing). I've felt that if I don't "fix it" that it will be too late (i.e. I won't exist any longer).
So mine is similar to yours in that it has to do with progess in therapy. I have found the urgency incredibly terrifying. I haven't been able to explain it in a way that makes sense to my therapist yet, so he hasn't been able to help me with it. The last time, he was able to convince me that *he* wasn't scared that I would fall apart. I'm still not sure that he understood what I was saying, but I was able to convince myself that if he wasn't scared, that I should be panicking.
I think that when you look at how far you have come in therapy (i.e. trusting and needing your therapist), that you should be able to see that you really have made a lot of progress. You have done incredibly hard work. You have more to do, but you have shown that you can *do* the work, and make progress. No one knows how long their therapy will need to last (at least if the therapy is "significant") - so don't try to put an end date on it. As long as you are (in general) moving forward, try to let that be enough.
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