Posted by Joslynn on July 18, 2004, at 19:36:27
In reply to Re: I'm in love with my therapist, posted by Jadah on July 16, 2004, at 21:07:45
*sigh* I just wrote a long, hopefully supportive post and then lost it because I hit submit without putting in my screen name.
Anyway, what I wanted to say was first of all, thank you for your honesty and for showing us the dark side of the fantasy.
Secondly, like others, I do think you should see another therapist and let go of him. I know that you feel psychologically and sexually bonded, but long-term, how good will it be, how much time of your life and emotions will it eat up? I just feel like you deserve to have someone of your own to love and who loves you.
Also, just so you know, if you do tell the story to another therapist, you may want to ask first if they are obligated to report one of their peers who violates the professional ethics. They may be required to report this kind of thing, I think I read that somewhere.
Personally, I do think this guy should be reported, but that is not my decision to make, it is yours. And I wouldn't want you to end up having that decision made for you by another therapist either. So maybe research the professional requirements about other therapist violations first, either by asking or reading up on it...whether or not they would be required to tell.
This may be a long process for you, but hang in there and please remember it is not your fault. He should have been trained to realize that a sexual abuse victim is very vulnerable in this way. It is hard for me to have compassion for someone who cannot uphold the morals of his marriage or his profession. I think you deserve better, but I am also impressed that you can see all sides. I don't think I could.
None of this is your fault. You were vulnerable and had been victimized before. You were looking for a safe place. I think we all want that and sometimes it can go to another place we hadn't intended.
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