Posted by Miss Honeychurch on July 23, 2004, at 8:32:33
In reply to Re: Matt DDS? Other CBT'ers? » fires, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2004, at 6:44:02
Dinah,
My T always tells me that no one is ever responsible for my moods, that *I* am responsible for my moods. That is, if I get angry, *I* make myself angry, and not the other person. Very CBT. I am really still trying to work on this concept. BUT, the exception in Bean's book is when other people cause you PHYSICAL harm, just as you put forth as an example. So according to Bean, your example would be the exception.
I love the idea of no one being able to upset me, that I solely am responsible for my emotions. In fact, that is one of my CBT mantras which I receite every day, sometimes ad nauseum.
It is a great concept, but sometimes hard to buy into. It is based on the tyranny of THE SHOULD.
poster:Miss Honeychurch
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