Posted by JenStar on September 11, 2004, at 13:27:28
In reply to How to respond to this?, posted by Klokka on September 10, 2004, at 21:44:17
Klokka,
you're probably a lot less annoying than you think you are. Maybe your T is trying to say to you: "Klokka, no matter how annoying YOU think you are, I will still like you and continue to see you. You're not that bad!" He's giving you the chance to show your worst so HE can show you it's not all that bad, after all.Or maybe he senses that you use your supposed obnoxious behavior to drive people away when they start to get too close, so that you don't have to suffer the pain/humiliation of THEM severing ties down the road (so you do it first), and he's showing you that here it won't work -- he likes you, you're NOT going to drive him away, no matter what you do...???
Yes, I totally made this stuff up -- but I think it's good to look on the bright side of things! Assume that you are NOT flawed, you're NOT annoying, you're NOT a freak. You're a great person who just is afraid of intimacy, or lacks expertise in developing relationships...he can help you improve, maybe?
Those are just my own 'possible scenario' thoughts. For what it's worth, based on what I read here, you don't seem annoying or obnoxious at all! :)
I hope you feel up to sharing more of the details from your next session and tell us how it goes.
Take care! thinking kind thoughts for you...
JenStar
PS -- I too have those feelings sometimes where I think that I'm just too different from the 'general population' to be liked... I don't use the same words to describe it as you do, but I think it sort of gets at the same root emotion. The way I try to get past this when it arises is: focus on my good friends, remind myself that they DO like me; focus on my wonderful husband & family, who DO like me...etc. It's hard but I KNOW there are people out there who love you, too -- don't forget about them! :) And of course, we are your friends here on the board... hopefully that can give you a smile too. :)
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