Posted by shrinking violet on October 25, 2004, at 17:08:13
In reply to Re: Update » Bent, posted by Rigby on October 25, 2004, at 10:46:25
Wow, I can relate to your situation in general; I've had a similar one with my T (posted somewhere above, I won't repeat too much here). You handled things a lot better than I am/have, though! Congrats! While I decided to end with her (for good this time), I sent her a final email and probably gave her more credit than she deserved, and I didn't tell her how badly she made me feel and why, BUT I also believe my T genuinely cared and tried as hard as she could, and anything she did "wrong" wasn't intentional in any way. I think I was too much for her to handle, and she either couldn't or wouldn't see that and accept her limitations. I've had similar instances with my T where she would say something very hurtful; she never really apologizes either, which bothers me. I think she thinks that I'm overreacting (i.e. I must be wrong b/c I'm the patient), and she tends to see and react to things in me that aren't even there. When I have directed anger at her, I've always apologized for it, sometimes multiple times. It bothers me a lot that she can't or won't do the same.
But, she is a wonderful person and she genuinely wants to help...it's so hard to fault her for trying so hard.
*sigh*
Just wanted to tell you I can relate, and that I think you handled it very well. Good luck in figuring out where to go from here. Take care.
-SV
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