Posted by alexandra_k on October 28, 2004, at 16:26:09
In reply to Re: Worried about T1's Boundaries » LG04, posted by Joslynn on October 28, 2004, at 9:25:16
I think that for me the boundary issue (not that there is just one of those, but this particular boundary issue) is about what sort of attachment my T has for me. Am I an interchangable client with an allotted time slot comperable to similar clients dealing with similar stuff; or am I 'special' or 'different' or cared about as a unique individual in some way.
I do fantasise about the latter happening, but that is probably becuase it is always nice to think that other people care about you because they like you as an individual. But if a T does this then I think that it is a sign that the T has gotten too involved. If they do this then I reciprocate (it is so easy to care so much when one feels cared about so much) and then things do get built up into something unhealthy (unhealthy for me at any rate).
I am not saying that therapists shouldn't say that they care about or like a patient becuase of some nice personal qualities they have or anything like that. But I do think that one shouldn't 'bend the rules' - or at least not so many of them, not so very often - just becuase they particularly like a client.
What will happen if she 'gets over' her over-interest in me? I will be very hurt indeed.
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