Posted by alexandra_k on October 30, 2004, at 5:16:27
In reply to Re: Worried about T1's Boundaries » alexandra_k, posted by Daisym on October 29, 2004, at 18:21:25
Hi Daisy, thanks for your post. I am not sure where I stand on the second paragraph.
> I guess what I mainly disagree with is this idea that your therapist can't care about YOU...but can only care about a CLIENT. As if there were generic caring about generic clients. You can't teach caring in college, and it comes from a connection to an individual. I want my therapist's caring to be individual, not that I'm singled out as special, but rather that he cares about me and my problems, as opposed to he cares about ALL his clients. I don't know if I'm getting across what I mean... Once I said something about him not thinking about me between sessions and he was really hurt and insulted. He said he worries about his clients, thinks about them often, notices when he hasn't heard from them and smiles when he sees something that reminds him of them. And he does specifically mention, "I thought of you last Saturday, when..."
I just don't know. I mean, I care about my work, and I think of it a great deal outside work hours, and so I am sure that being a clinician is no different. I guess that maybe I am one of those people who needs pretty solid boundaries though, and perhaps more restrictive rather than liberal ones. I mean, everyone is different but for me I would be ok with a T who had a no touching, no gifts etc policy. Other people might find this overly restrictive. This is something that I think about a great deal though and I am not really sure what I think at the end of the day. I just don't know...
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