Posted by Daisym on October 29, 2004, at 18:21:25
In reply to Re: Worried about T1's Boundaries » Joslynn, posted by alexandra_k on October 28, 2004, at 16:26:09
I agree and disagree with you, I think. (now there's an ambiguous sentence!) I think your therapist should have good boundaries that are flexible enough to meet the needs of all her clients. You might need something extra every now and then, or you might be struggling with something her other clients aren't. On the other hand, I see the set up you are talking about.
I guess what I mainly disagree with is this idea that your therapist can't care about YOU...but can only care about a CLIENT. As if there were generic caring about generic clients. You can't teach caring in college, and it comes from a connection to an individual. I want my therapist's caring to be individual, not that I'm singled out as special, but rather that he cares about me and my problems, as opposed to he cares about ALL his clients. I don't know if I'm getting across what I mean... Once I said something about him not thinking about me between sessions and he was really hurt and insulted. He said he worries about his clients, thinks about them often, notices when he hasn't heard from them and smiles when he sees something that reminds him of them. And he does specifically mention, "I thought of you last Saturday, when..."
Just something to keep in mind.
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