Posted by sunny10 on November 1, 2004, at 13:53:42
In reply to Perfect Timing » crushedout, posted by Rigby on October 31, 2004, at 15:36:05
I agree with the others.
Transference, connections, any feelings that you are friends; thus letting yourself feel guilty about leaving her, are ALL beside the point.
We are PAYING these people to counsel us; they are not our friends. We are not responsible for their feelings; we ARE PAYING them to be responsible for ours, and for teaching us how to grow emotionally stronger so that we don't NEED anyone to be responsible for our feelings other than ourselves.
If you feel that she is not teaching you to grow, then you need to be paying someone who does.
I do believe, along with everyone here, that you should have another T lined up before "quitting"- which, by the way, I think you might want to try calling "firing her"- try making the feeling one of empowerment for you, not failure.
It has helped me to "fire" my last T.
My current T is trying to teach me to be "safe" within myself, with no one as a crutch- but with a caveat; everyone needs a support network if only to bounce ideas off of when you can't seem to find that "safe" place within yourself.
You notice I said she's TRYING to teach me- whether I can actually learn/believe it is still to be discovered...
Chin up, we're here to bounce your ideas off!
-sunny10
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