Posted by daisym on November 2, 2004, at 23:08:06
In reply to Re: What I want, What she wants » Daisym, posted by fallsfall on November 2, 2004, at 22:15:29
Thanks Falls. This is really hard.
I think what he meant about not sharing it yet was practicing with him instead of just blurting it out the "wrong" way to my hubby. I tend to jump in sometimes when I'm not really ready. And if I get an angry reaction or complete rejection, I'll just crumple back down. And I think we need to keep talking about that compromise you suggested. Little daisy is not going to get her way on this completely, of course.
It was hard to hear him say today, "I'm really worried about you. This isn't good for you, to feel so completely powerless around this. Self-sacrifice is not an option I wish for you." It is so not like me...I look in the mirror and wonder why the director doesn't come home with me at night.
However, he was very reassuring at the end and said he was very glad I talked to him about all this and I didn't have to do or change anything right now, he wouldn't be disappointed in me or upset. Good thing since I have no idea what to do right now.
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