Posted by Blossom on February 5, 2005, at 22:23:59
Hello everyone. Now I know that probably some of you will be jealous. Don't be. I'm not sure why I didn't catch on sooner, but I finally came to the realization at my session a couple of days ago that my (male) therapist is in love with me. I tried to tell me husband, but he thinks I'm crazy. But, girls, you know we have a sense about these things.
Back before Christmas, I told him that I didn't want to be a patient anymore, that I wanted to be considered someone who is well and normal, not someone in need of therapy. (And I feel that I have fully recovered from the issue that brought me to therapy in the first place). I basically said that I didn't think I needed to see him every week. He then said something that puzzled me: "Well, I certainly don't need to see YOU every week!"
I thought, "DUH! You're the therapist!!!"
Later, he told me that he would have to be gone for about a month. I responded that I would be on vacation part of that time anyway, and he immediately replied, "So you won't miss me?"
Then, when he came back, he called me, from his home phone on a Saturday morning to schedule an appointment to see me. Now he's given me his home address (He lives about 4 miles from me and passes my house almost every day), his home phone number, and his cell phone number.
When I finally saw him, he said something to the effect that I was at the top of his list to schedule me. That's funny. I'm really doing very well. Then during our session, he wanted to know exactly how it was not having him around. We spent quite a bit of time talking about the sometimes very intimate details of what happened to him while he was gone, and he ran the session almost 20 minutes over! I know that it was a violation of boundaries.
Now, I like him a lot, and before I realized that he felt this way about me, I didn't have any sexual feelings for him (he's more than twice my age).
The thing is, I am in the process of termination. Termination is hard enough as it is, and knowing too much about your therapist and having the line between "therapist" and "friend" blurred, and realizing that he is in love with you makes it VERY hard. Now I am not just losing my therapist, I am losing my friend. Besides this, I think we've started going down that very "slippery slope" if you know what I mean, and I don't want either of us to get into trouble, but I don't want to never see him again either. What should I do???
Blossom
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