Posted by Blossom on February 18, 2005, at 16:08:53
In reply to Re: relationship Blossom » Blossom, posted by bent on February 7, 2005, at 8:43:42
So I just had my session with my T yesterday. I decided to lie low and see what happened. I'm still convinced that he loves me, but I also think that he's professional enough to not do anything inappropriate. It's nice to feel special when you can feel safe at the same time. The thing is, he tells me so much about his private life. I guess that's kind of inappropriate. It makes me feel more like his friend than his client. I know where he lives, his telephone number, who his wife and kids are, and the arguments they have at home, what his favorite color is, what kind of car he wants to buy, what he gave his wife for Christmas, what kind of music he listens to, when he went to have surgery, what day and which hospital it would be at (I happened to be working at that hospital that day, and had I wanted to, could have gone into his hospital room and seen him there, all wrapped up and dressed down, if you know what I mean--what I scary thought!!!), the details of his surgery and the intimate details of the complications that resulted from hospital negligence (ewww!), his struggles with his mother-in-law, his car problems, his daughter's rough transition through puberty, etc, etc, etc.
Do you think he tells everybody this stuff? I hope not!
Anyway, you get my drift. And knowing all of this makes me feel like termination is going to be all the harder because it will be more like terminating a friendship just when its going well.
But then again, I am beginning to wonder if he ever will terminate me. We spent a good deal of time going over ground that we have spent a lot of time on already. I think he is having a hard time getting rid of me, and I am having a hard time making a move in that direction too. I want him to call the shot, even though I don't think I need him anymore, because as I said, it will be terrible to not see him anymore, especially since I see him around town all the time, so I won't be able to forget about him so easily!
Blossom
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