Posted by gardenergirl on February 19, 2005, at 8:57:18
In reply to Re: relationship Blossom, posted by Blossom on February 18, 2005, at 21:35:02
Hi Blossom,
I just wanted to share my own experience related to something you posted above. You said you wanted a friendship with him and his family, but you know that can't happen. I had a similar experience recently in therapy, although it involved wanting a professional relationship (and of course frienship that comes from working together) with my T. I really obsessed over this for awhile, all without telling him. I kept coming back to the same conclusion that it couldn't happen and would be a terrible idea. But still I kept wishing for it. It was very sad for me. I finally had to talk to my T about it, because it began to affect my behavior regarding therapy (I actually no-showed once, something I just don't do!). I finally told him all I had been thinking about and feeling about it. He responded beautifully. Now all the obsessive thoughts about it have essentially gone away after having talked about it. I really do feel much better about it.So I would encourage you to be very honest with your T about how you are feeling...the wishes and the reality. I think it would help. And it may also spur him to think about his own contributions, wishes, etc.
Take care,
gg
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