Posted by Dinah on December 8, 2005, at 23:03:22
In reply to Re: I need positive therapy vibes » Dinah, posted by 10derHeart on December 8, 2005, at 22:40:57
> I am familiar with the crying yourself to sleep scenario :-( And as gg might say, you surely come by that honestly :-(
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> I think....your realization about the depth and importance of your roots in New Orleans is very beautiful. I'll bet in a way that's the opposite of how the thoughts have usually gone since the storm - toward getting out because of the devastation and uncertain future - this is something else. Right away I thought it was something like an anger/pride/stubbornness thing, i.e., "Yes, I hate you, Katrina! And the LAST thing you'll do to me is break my spirit or drive me from my home!"I've been reading to my son a book written by a member of my great grandfather's family that mentions him quite a lot, and my grandfather a bit. He's been interested in seeing his family in a published book, and we've been having lots of history and geography lessons along the way. Our roots here in New Orleans run deep.
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> I can't really relate, but I want to. I hope a person even in their 40s can maybe find roots and want to stay in a place forever. My whole adult life was spent in the military (moved 11 times). I just now passed 4 years where I live now, and that's the longest time in one place since 1978. I feel both a wanderlust AND an urge to NEVER leave, all at once. Nuts, isn't it?
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I hope they can, if that's what you hope. :) I guess like any sort of love, it can be heartbreaking as well as satisfying. I'm just so surprised at myself. I'm sooo aware of the shortcomings of the area, that I wasn't aware of all I'd miss until I was faced with the prospect.
> But, I digress.
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> As to your T's comment, of course only you'd know, but I took it in another way. Since he's certainly not playing by Dr. Bob's civility rules (!), I thought the hairdresser thing meant he was kind of putting down those who'd be so shallow as to worry about the loss of a *mere* hairdresser(snort! no female T. would go there...but that's another thing) and saying that you are justifibly distressed about moving away from someone as important as a therapist.
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> Or am I being too kind to him? ;-)Well, maybe a bit. :) On the other hand, I like to tell myself that he said it because he felt a bit hurt that I thought it was so ridiculous to base a family decision on *him*.
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