Posted by fairywings on December 9, 2005, at 10:19:55
In reply to Forced distance (long), posted by LauraBeane on December 9, 2005, at 9:58:19
I know you have a lot of respect for him, and he's helped you a lot, BUT this is your therapy, not his! He should do his distancing between sessions, not during yours. You're paying for his help, if he can't handle the intensity, then he shouldn't be a therapist. I know it's really hard to think about a new T, but I'd talk it over with him, maybe write all of your thoughts and feelings down, and if he can't be more consistent, then I'd be looking elsewhere. I think therapy is about what YOU need, and talking in one session about things that are very intense probably isn't enough. It's not like talking about it and having a week to digest it is going to make it go away. Usually when we have the intense sessions I feel worse the next week. If my T retreated I'd take it personally, feel rejected, and wouldn't be able to go back. His reaction would just make everything worse.
I hope you can work this out.
fw
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