Posted by Dinah on December 9, 2005, at 16:58:37
In reply to Re: Forced distance (long), posted by LauraBeane on December 9, 2005, at 15:17:41
I think Happyflower is right. Generic therapy rarely fits everyone, and they don't know how we're reacting unless we tell them.
Can you start up a conversation when you feel it happening? And tell him you didn't quite understand why this style of backing off was in your best interests? That way it doesn't have to be confrontational.
I am very up front about the temperature in the room, so to speak. If I feel he isn't engaged, or if I feel him pull back, I mention it right away, and he's usually able to put the energy back into the room. That saves me from the anger that comes to me from an empty session.
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