Posted by fairywings on December 9, 2005, at 13:47:44
In reply to Re: you don't..., posted by B2chica on December 9, 2005, at 11:27:10
> oh dear fairywings. First thing...don't hide it. don't deny yourself your feelings. there have been many years where i just can't put up any decorations, it was hard this year all i did was the nativity scene. but my husband put up lots of other stuff.
I'm hoping that maybe this weekend I can get the kids and husband to do some things, and bake cookies, so the kids have good memories. I really want that for them.
> that 'sick' feeling you have may feel awful but i'm sure it's good. it's like (excuse the metaphor) throwing up. it may feel awful but afterwards you get better.I often feel like I'm going to vomit emotionally, so it's a good metaphor. I hope it feels better, emotional vomiting takes a lot longer.
> telling this secret was good. it was just roting inside you. this also shows that you trust your T enough to let this out. keep it going, keep discussing it till it no longer feels icky (medical term).
Watch those medical terms with me B2, sometimes they go right over my head. ; ) I know telling my T was good, because it's something I never talk about to anyone except my husband. I have huge problems with trust, and it feels really good to trust him.
> i doubt your kids think they have a crazy mom. but kids see right through stuff. let them know that it's ok, that mommy just doens't feel that well lately. that you feel a little sad. if your husband loves you he won't think your a burden.
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I hate my kids walking around like they're on eggshells, I tell them I don't feel well, and that it doesn't have anything to do with them. My husband is great, but how much can one person tolerate? He asks what he can do, so that's good. He's very patient, don't know if I'd be so, as much as he is with me.> are you on any meds?
I am, but not for this. Will see how it goes, and if it lifts b4 I see pdoc again.
Thanks B2. ; )
fw
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