Posted by annierose on December 27, 2005, at 15:30:01
In reply to Re: Termination + transference - I'm losing it =( » annierose, posted by dancinbillie on December 27, 2005, at 13:13:30
I take it you are a woman seeing a female T? I am female (obviously by my name) and see a female T too. And my T does not find it strange that I feel such a close connection with her. I love her, but I'm not "in love" with her. It's not a sexual feeling, just longing attached painful loving feelings ... I don't know quite what ... lots of different feelings for her.
My T will tell me the opposite of what your T expressed to you. She will say, "This relationship is like a glorious love affair. It's only natural that you would feel all these feelings towards me. I am the center of your emotional life right now." And just recently, when I gave her a Christmas gift she told me, "You know so much about me." --- even though she tells me very little about herself. When you work this intimately with someone, the very essence of each other is revealed in the sharing and understanding of information, even though it is mostly a one-way street.
I'm surprised that your T has been doing therapy for over 20 years --- and is psychodynamic at that. As painful as switching Ts will be, and it will, you may find your new T understanding these painful issues at a deeper level. Keep posting and talking about it. And if you can, share these feelings with your T. If you only brought up the subject once, I would try again.
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