Posted by Tamar on December 28, 2005, at 16:30:35
In reply to Re: I had a bad session today and I just want to quit, posted by happyflower on December 28, 2005, at 15:13:20
I’m sorry you had a bad session.
Of course, I don’t know why he was grumpy but I’d bet my house it’s nothing to do with you. If he didn’t want to work with you anymore he’d probably be bored rather than grumpy.
I don’t know if it’s the same for you, but when people are grumpy with me I usually assume it’s about me. I guess it’s because of my parents’ grumpiness with me… I tend to take everything personally. But of course when people are very grumpy they’ll take it out on anyone around, even if it’s not about the people they’re actually with. I don’t get grumpy at work much, but when I do it’s almost always because I’m really grumpy at a member of my family (or occasionally if a complete stranger is rude to me).
> When he was scheduling my next appointment, I was having trouble deceiding on when to have my next appointment, I was talking out loud the stuff I had to do, then he said that doesn't help him, do I want 9,10,11, or 2? I thought, gosh arent we cranky today, but I didn't say that, maybe I should have. I just feel like cr*p.
I think that’s an important point. It’s hard to say to a therapist, “Gosh, aren’t we cranky today!” And if you had said it, perhaps he would have stopped to think and apologised. But if we don’t say anything the feelings fester.
If he doesn’t call you back, maybe you could call him again and say you still don’t understand why he was snippy with you but you don’t feel you deserved it and you’re feeling hurt, and ask him to call you back. What do you think?
Tamar
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