Posted by tryingtobewise on December 28, 2005, at 21:35:30
In reply to Re: I had a bad session today and I just want to q » Tamar, posted by happyflower on December 28, 2005, at 20:56:31
Hi Happyflower - I am a lurker here, I've posted before but it has been a long while & I doubt if anyone remembers me.
Anyway, I've been following your posts a bit. I thought I'd add that I have worked for a T for the past 5 years. I've noticed over the years that whenever he lets lines blur with clients, which he definitely has a tendency to do, at some point he always institutes a "crack down" of sorts. Since your T has been flirting with you & such, he may be trying to institute some more "discipline" (for lack of a better word) to the therapy relationship. Sadly, it is because of his own misjudgements but it comes across as a punishment to you. Which understandably is confusing.
So I guess what I'm attempting to say is if he is trying to be more formal about things again...try not to feel like you are the one to blame because you are not! He may just be feeling extra-aware that he has let things slide a bit. If you have questions or concerns about it, you totally have a right to ask them.
(I'm sure after reading this you can see why I lurk & don't post! Others are much more eloquent then I am!)
Kim
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