Posted by tryingtobewise on January 3, 2006, at 23:36:08
In reply to Re: I give up » happyflower, posted by LadyBug on January 3, 2006, at 17:41:08
What a bummer HF! I hate, hate, hate, feeling in limbo so I can relate to your misery. What you are doing is taking matters into your own hands either: a) by divulging the pink elephant because the result of that would provide you with some definite input regarding whether or not you & T could/would ever be together, or as it turns out b) by terminating therapy which is definitely reclaiming the ball for your own court.
I am going to offer a different perspective from most of the others. And I sincerely hope I don't offend anyone. I honestly mean that. Instead of working through it, I actually think it can be a positive thing to reclaim yourself from the throes of therapy if you feel in any way that it is turning bad for you...i.e. becoming a fixation that is more agony than whatever benefit you are getting from it. It is empowering to know that you can look out for your own best interest. If you have unresolved issues there are other Ts, books, and support groups that can all be a means to the same end.
This perspective of mine comes from prior experience as a long term client, an employee of a very popular T, and as a current client in a very supportive & productive T situation that is not consuming. (This current situation is with a female T which for me has been somewhat key.)
Anyay, I hope I haven't pi$$ed you (or any other readers) off. I'm just so impressed by the humor and ambition that you are using to deal with this, and I will happily lend my support no matter how you end up proceeding.
Hang in there!
Kim
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