Posted by susan47 on May 20, 2006, at 15:36:14
In reply to Re: Abrupt termination and quitting is not the answer » orchid, posted by Larry Hoover on May 18, 2006, at 19:00:26
Anything would feel abrupt to Happyflower right now, I think .. I could be wrong, but anything less than him sitting her in her lap and stroking her hair and putting her head on his shoulder and just cooing to her, just cooing and nothing else, well maybe .. maybe she would get all hot and bothered because after all, he is not her father and she is not his little girl, she is his client, or his patient, and she has come to him to be loved, and .. well .. I think true therapy has to be found somewhere inside our lives, in reality, not in the office, because now he has to cut her off a bit at a time a bit at a time a bit at a time ... and each little cutting off hurts, unless someone tears away, physically tears and the wound .. well, the would could swallow you up forever, if you're not careful and protective, if you don't hedge your bets and keep playing the game ... you won't survive. Which is why therapists are all kind of dysfunctional in their own way, they just have to be to survive. We need to teach people how to parent themnselves so they don't have to do this as adults. When you have children, the responsibility to know your own self is huge .... you have to grow up your own child, and I just don't know how therapy can make it easier than it has up to now, but there must be something we haven't explored yet, or discovered, there has to be.
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